Quit my job..

Discussion in 'Legal' started by GC123, Jan 30, 2011.

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  1. GC123

    GC123 UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    I've worked for the same man for 4 years. Always got on well with my boss until recently, when some personal issues came between us. Anyway, my employer stormed into work yesterday morning and demanded that I ring his mother to apologise for something I had said to her because if I didnt he was going to "kick my c*** in", "and then sack you" if I didn't. I quit on the spot. Obviously I felt very threatened and had to quit, but I just want to know if anyone had any advice?
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: GC123 Member since: Jan 21, 2011
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  2. Parthelan

    Parthelan UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    Ah yes. You're the person who's working in the office of a man who's married to one of your sisters and having an affair with the other one.

    And your response to this was to call everyone who knew him, business and personal and accuse him of being a paedophile, including, presumably, his mother.

    Seeing as you slandered him, and falsely accused him of just about the most heinous crime known to man, did you apologise?

    Your initial thread was along the lines of asking if you could quit and then sue him for constructive dismissal even though you admitted you never had a problem with him.

    I see you're back for a second bite of the cherry.
     
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    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: Parthelan Member since: Dec 16, 2010
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  3. GC123

    GC123 UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    The single and only time that word was raised was on this forum. If you remember correctly, someone else used that word and I said that in my opinion that was the perfect word for him. I did not accuse him of that crime. I did say however that I was unsure of the actual legislation regarding it.

    My initial thread was me asking for advice, I didn't want to be dismissed because he had accused me of someththing at I hadn't actually done, and didn't want him thinking he could just sack me and be rid of me and get away with it!
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: GC123 Member since: Jan 21, 2011
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  4. Parthelan

    Parthelan UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    You're quite correct. I was misrememberating. Someone else did indeed use the term, and you agreed with it. However, you seemed to think he was, given you werent aware of the age of consent where you are; here's what you said:

    When you let his customers know his true colours, did you call him a sex offender, or a paedophile? Given that at the time you thought he was, as you didnt know the age of consent.

    And did you call him sex offender or paedophile to his mother?

    Did you use those terms in any conversation about him to anyone?
     
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    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: Parthelan Member since: Dec 16, 2010
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  5. GC123

    GC123 UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    No, as I said the only time that word has been used or those implications were made are here on this forum. When I said "true colours" I meant with regards to him breaking my trust, we were good friends before all this and used to socialise regularly. I only spoke to his mother in the past week, and since coming onto this forum and people telling me that he had not infact broken any laws with regard to her age, I didn't use those terms to his mother, or anyone else. I did use the word "sick", but thats about it.
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: GC123 Member since: Jan 21, 2011
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  6. Parthelan

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    Any witnesses to his violent threatening behaviour?
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: Parthelan Member since: Dec 16, 2010
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  7. GC123

    GC123 UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    Well yes, my first witness would be my little sister, who still works there and I now know their relationship is continuing, so we can count her out as a witness. She was outside in the smoking area which is where he originally threatened me. However I went back inside and he repeated his threat, that time I'm sure at least one person heard him say it. However, I haven't asked yet, but I know any witness(es) are not likely to be forthcoming considering they still work there and do not want to risk their jobs. If someone does say they were a witness to his behaviour, do they have to be open about it or can they remain anonymous? How far would they actually have to go to be considered a witness?
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: GC123 Member since: Jan 21, 2011
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  8. Parthelan

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    I think he had reasonably good grounds to sack you for bad mouthing him when it happened, betrayal of trust, bringing him and his company into disrepute and possibly damaging his business ... but I think he might well have blow it by becoming threatening and violent.

    On the face of it, in light of a very troubling personal threat, followed by an arbitrary threat of sacking without reference to due process, you may well have a case for constructive dismisal.

    Regardless of the provocation, he has no right to threaten anyone, most especially the threat fo violence. As it is, he has possibly already committed an offense in law.

    As to how strong a case you might have, or whether witness statements can be annonymous in a tribunal, I think the experts on here like Karl would be best to advise.
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: Parthelan Member since: Dec 16, 2010
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  9. GC123

    GC123 UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    Thanks Tom for at least reassuring me. As you said hopefully someone who knows the ins and outs of the legislation concerning this will be able to advise me further.
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: GC123 Member since: Jan 21, 2011
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  10. saxondale

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    you sue him - he brings up the thread, you loose.


    I`m glad you had the principle to resign last month when you found out you were working for a (your words) sex offender who was (your words) abusing a member of your own family.
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: saxondale Member since: Jul 23, 2008
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  11. GC123

    GC123 UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    Loose?

    I doubt very much he will ever know about this thread.

    Everyone has different circumstances, I was seeking work then and of course I still am now, I'm not sure how lucky you are Saxondale but I for one couldn't have (and still can't) afford to lose my only source of income. Only for the fact I was threatened and felt that I was working in an unsafe environment did I quit.
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: GC123 Member since: Jan 21, 2011
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  12. Stretchy

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    I think that he's suggesting that if you actually thought your sister was being abused by a sex offender, you should grow some balls, and do something about it, rather than running away. Thats my take on the situation anyway.
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: Stretchy Member since: Jun 11, 2010
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  13. GC123

    GC123 UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    Do something about it? Like what perhaps? Maybe you should try reading the thread that they are talking about. Not that it actually matters, I'd much prefer if we could stay on topic and the people who want to piss me off by talking about my previous thread from now on will be ignored :)
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: GC123 Member since: Jan 21, 2011
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  14. JEREMY HAWKE

    JEREMY HAWKE UKBF Legend Full Member

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    You sound like a lot of effort !!!

    Are you sure that not one of these problem children

    You always appear to be in some sort of bother.

    Have you ever had a good day ?
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: JEREMY HAWKE Member since: Mar 4, 2008
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  15. lesliedocherty

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    Amazing how you can paint a good picture when telling one side of the story.
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: lesliedocherty Member since: Jun 17, 2006
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  16. MH1

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    I reckon you are lucky to still be walking.
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: MH1 Member since: Dec 27, 2007
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  17. saxondale

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    the number of times I had typed that then decided not to post it.
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: saxondale Member since: Jul 23, 2008
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  18. lesliedocherty

    lesliedocherty UKBF Ace Free Member

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    Same here, you'll look back on this in a few years, and think to yourself
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: lesliedocherty Member since: Jun 17, 2006
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  19. JohnnyCash

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    No way this thread (and the one preceding it) isn't a regular ukbf member with another account, taking the piss.
     
    Posted: Jan 30, 2011 By: JohnnyCash Member since: Dec 8, 2010
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  20. GC123

    GC123 UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    As unbelieveable as it sounds Johnny, its the truth. It doesn't matter, all I wanted was some legal advice, as I thought that was the idea of a forum such as this, some people are helpful, others seem to relish in telling me that I'm wrong, or being unreasonable.

    Reminds me of a saying.. Before you criticise someone, try walking a mile in their shoes.** But whatever, I'm going to see my sister's solicitor tomorrow, she's going to halt her divorce (due to come through in a week's time) and I'm asking for advice on what my rights are regarding being physically threatened by him, and sexual discrimination.

    Hopefully I wont need to come back to this forum any time soon, and for everyone that helped or had something nice to say, thanks. For the others - I hope what you said made you feel good :)


    ** That way, when you criticse them.. you're a mile away.. and you've got their shoes ;)
     
    Posted: Jan 31, 2011 By: GC123 Member since: Jan 21, 2011
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