Also if I joined 1 in the east midlands would I be able to go to any BNI meeting in the east midlands or just the 1 that I have joined.
You can visit any other Chapter that doesn't have someone in your classification. You can go as a substitute for a member at another Chapter (see below). However, you should check in advance with the Chapter Director.
You should never go to another Chapter's "Visitors Day".
As a member of BNI for a couple of years, I am shocked by a couple of the posts on here:
Main thing with BNI is that you HAVE to attend every week and provide referrals.
If you don't then they will kick you out without any refund.
Not completely true. Yes, there is a requirement to attend every week
or send someone as a substitute (it cannot be member of the same Chapter). However, BNI does give you three absences (i.e. not being there and not supplying a sub) within 6 months. There is also medical leave for serious illnesses, pregnancy, etc.
I myself have considered joining our local BNI, the thing that puts me off is that you HAVE to get a refferal EVERY week for another member of the chapter.
That sounds like a rule that the local Chapter has decided on, it certainly isn't a BNI rule. Yes, of course you should be trying to find a referral for other members - BNI's philosophy is "Givers Gain". But it's called the referrals and testimonials section. So if you haven't got a referral, you give a testimonal to another member who has done work for you, or you can announce any 1-2-1 meetings you've had or are about to have with other members in the Chapter.
For more about BNI, see my blog entry
What is BNI and is it any good?
At the end of the day only you can decide if BNI is going to work for you. So why not pop along to the Chapter (you are allowed two visits - or you could go as a substitute) and see the people there, etc.