Working from home and domestic life problems

[telemarketer]

Hello

I have been working from my home for five years now I am facing so many problems, I fell time has come to change job or work environment because I am having so many quarrel with my wife on daily basis. I am always at home so we spend much time together she is doing job in an office, when she is at home we have problem on small things even. fight-fight and fight.

What you people say how to tackle domestic problems when working from home. Don't you think working from home effect our personal life?

Thanks

 

[fisicx]

Change your wife.

No more fights and no more quarrels.

 

[The Byre]

Assuming you don't want to change your wife - set one room aside as an office and stay in there.

But I must say, I worked for 12 years with my wife. We were together 24 hrs a day and we have never had a serious argument.

Why argue with your wife? I never argue with my wife - she's always right. Yes, I am an idiot, but I have learnt to live with that fact!

 

[tony84]

I couldnt imagine anything worse than sitting in your house all day every day and spending all the time with your wife.

Have an office, keep EVERYTHING work related in there. Go in do your job, come out for a brew or food etc but keep the distance between you during the day. Alternatively get an actual office, you can get them for £150 a month now with bills included.

Spending all day and night together your going to argue. I have an office i work from a couple of days a week.

 

[telemarketer]

Change your wife.

No more fights and no more quarrels.

I don't want to change wife.

The Byre thanks for your reply. I will consider you suggestion seriously.

tony84 getting an actual office is a good suggestion. thanks

 

I couldnt imagine anything worse than sitting in your house all day every day and spending all the time with your wife.

Yeah better to spend it with you're own wife.

Although one never knows.:|

 

[tony84]

Dont give her false hope! Im not married!

 

Why argue with your wife? I never argue with my wife - she's always right. Yes, I am an idiot, but I have learnt to live with that fact!

Yep the wife's always right,just not quite as right as me.

If 2 people spend all their time fighting ,I would suggest they don't like each other.

 

[Nord20]

My wife and I run our business together - I work from home 99% of the time and have an basement office that is definitely my 'work' place.

She works from home around 50% of the time, so we do spend a lot of time together.

However, when we're working, she's in her office, I'm in mine and aside from the odd intercom chat when we need it, we stay out of each other's way.

I live, work, eat and sleep with my wife 7 days a week and I couldn't be happier

Of course it goes without saying that when push comes to shove, she's the boss.

One of the key things in our relationship is actually that we can argue - and we really argue - then we move on. Steam vented, kiss and make up, get on with life again.

And remember.....no woman ever started an argument with a man when he was cooking, cleaning, hoovering or ironing. Perhaps if you were doign one of these when she got home, your life might be a bit easier. Do your arguments ever go along the lines of "I'm out of the home working all day, and you're here all day, so why don't you ever clean the house?" ------- "because I'm working!!"" and so on....


On a serious note, it sounds like your problem may stem from your Wife coming home from a hard days work and you're just always there, she never gets any time to herself - she's surrounded by people all day, and you at night.

Perhaps arrange your day around a bit - go and do some exercise in the evenings so she can have a chance to wind down.

 

[hewi]

Change your wife.

No more fights and no more quarrels.

hahaha, very effective but seems a bit harsh.
Good old talking is what i would recommend, surely it can not be that hard to find a way in this. After all, the bills need to payed right?
So a bit of compromise on both sides might do wonders.

 

[Latebloomer]

Speak with your wife. Get family counselling if needed be.
If it doesnt work...
a) change wife
b) change place of work
c) just ignore her and say you are right...I am sorry...you are right...I am sorry. You'll get used to it.

 

[ZedS]

Nord20 raises some very good points actually.

Working from home can get very difficult as it's often challenging to find a healthy, happy work-life balance - sometimes this is very overwhelming. This, with the fact that most people see working from home as a picnic, can make you quite frustrated and also your partner.

You both need to take it easy. Sounds like she has a tough time at work too. Go out to eat a few times a week, plan and do something fun together on the weekends, just take a break from your work. You need it and it will help you a lot.

Also, give yourselves the space you need - women need alone time and I'm sure men do too. Finally, I highly recommend you to set up your own office, even if it's in your home - just separate one room ONLY for work and never take your work out of that room; everything work-related, papers, books, computer etc belong in there. Work is only for that room, and that room is only for work. Make that a rule and I promise it will free your mind!

Hope that helps and hope things get better soon.

 

[MokaBox]

I used to work from home but found it impossible to do a full days work. My wife was not the problem, she let me get on with work and brought me the occasional cup of tea...but the kids were another story!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! As soon as they got back from school it was like having a herd of buffalo charging around the house. It wasn't fair to get mad at them all the time so I ended up renting an office a few miles away (just about far enough not to hear the racket).

Best thing I ever did.

 

[deadpixel]

Similar issue. I work on weekends from home. MY problem is that my girlfriends kid watches TV in sitting room while that's where i work too. its very distracting. I have nowhere else as our apartment is small. I think im gonna get some ear plugs and i think you should do the same.

 

[Hey Create]

My Boyfriend works from home full time and I work from home part time. He works in our Garage that we had insulated and I work in the spare room. Works really well for us. Maybe you should look at renting a office space or rent a desk somewhere.

 

[nopasara]

I am working from home for the past 3 years and ... it's getting really heavy on me. Turns out I work 12-16 hours a day - lost all my friends, have no family... it sucks.

 

[medi1977]

I couldnt imagine anything worse than sitting in your house all day every day and spending all the time with your wife.

Have an office, keep EVERYTHING work related in there. Go in do your job, come out for a brew or food etc but keep the distance between you during the day. Alternatively get an actual office, you can get them for £150 a month now with bills included.

Spending all day and night together your going to argue. I have an office i work from a couple of days a week.

Just want to say I did the reverse (went from an office to working from home) reason being we had a baby in May, had to move location/cut costs.

My advice - never ever ever ever work from home if you can help it, was the biggest mistake I ever made giving up my office.

 

[Bobadob]

Working from home is tough times! Keep nipping out to get some food as you are only 10 yards from your fridge. Your wife/kids popping in to "check you are alright".
You need to get a zone where you are out of everyone's way - even if that means just closing the door.
Sometimes it is an absolute treat to close the door on screeching kids in the morning, you sit in the car before you head off and all is quiet. Lush!

 

[stadguiden]

Hello

I have been working from my home for five years now I am facing so many problems, I fell time has come to change job or work environment because I am having so many quarrel with my wife on daily basis. I am always at home so we spend much time together she is doing job in an office, when she is at home we have problem on small things even. fight-fight and fight.

What you people say how to tackle domestic problems when working from home. Don't you think working from home effect our personal life?

Thanks

This is happen because u are not working and another think your wife doing double job
First one doing Home work (Cleaning, breakfast etc..)
second one Office work
so this is the main cause and u can easily remove this fight because u can adapt a service like Stadguide and save your family. This is provide u all cleaning service and maid service.

 

[thelegalstop]

I agree having your own space is critical. I have worked in the same room that my family members trape through and there have been times where a simple question turns into a half hour conversation or longer (philosophical conversation ya know, or argument). Then I have to allocate that lost half hour to later in the day. Yes, good to stay in your own cave and even lock the door if you have to. Have her put notes under the door.

 

[broadex]

i was in the same situation till i moved to find an office....but people are different.

 

[amitaharij]

Better you both go for some counseling! Hope it helps...

 

[sebsuma]

Working from home can be very interesting but also stressful for other members of the family. It is important finding right home business idea which can fit in common needs such as making enough money but also a job where you can control your hours. Try to get a dedicated office space and have two separate phone lines so you can ignore business calls after 8pm, little things like this can really help.

 

[Conglomer Group]

Hello

I have been working from my home for five years now I am facing so many problems, I fell time has come to change job or work environment because I am having so many quarrel with my wife on daily basis. I am always at home so we spend much time together she is doing job in an office, when she is at home we have problem on small things even. fight-fight and fight.

What you people say how to tackle domestic problems when working from home. Don't you think working from home effect our personal life?

Thanks

If you are facing this problem since five years with many sacrifices than you must take a deep breath and put your whole work in specific hours and try to complete your work before your wife came home ...

what i think is that she needs your attention.

 

[Lynette]

Hello

I have been working from my home for five years now I am facing so many problems, I fell time has come to change job or work environment because I am having so many quarrel with my wife on daily basis. I am always at home so we spend much time together she is doing job in an office, when she is at home we have problem on small things even. fight-fight and fight.

What you people say how to tackle domestic problems when working from home. Don't you think working from home effect our personal life?

Thanks

I would say this is not a business issue, it's a relationship one. Maybe taking some time out to reconnect would be useful? Get out the house together and do something fun. As for working from home I suggest having a very clear line between work and domestic life. Set your hours and once you leave your desk your family should know your time is for them and for relaxing, then give them your time. It's hard to give advice on these things but if you're fighting all the time I think it would be good to have a good old chat and both air your grievances so you can find a suitable solution and get passed it.

 

[telemarketer]

Thank-you very much everyone for your precious time and reply, I have noted many points and now acting on it. I will say this post has helped me a-lot. Many things have been settled, Our relations are better then before. Thankyou.

 

[jack_sparrow]

I'd say working from home may affect personal life to the same extent as working too much from an office. It's not where you work, it's how you organise your workday schedule. Maybe instead of moving to an office outside your house, try to arrange one at home. Choose one room, which will be used only as your office. Your wife shouldn't be there during your working hours unless she has an important thing to ask. Having a room just for work helps to get into the working rountine and establish boundries with other people who live with you. It's a sign of telling them that you're working right now and they should respect this space.
And definitely talk to your wife. Tell her what the problem is. She might be more understanding than you think.

 

[pamwilson]

Tried working from home two years ago but it only took me 3 months because everybody's expecting me to do household chores. How can I when I'm working.

 

[The Byre]

Tried working from home two years ago but it only took me 3 months because everybody's expecting me to do household chores. How can I when I'm working.

Easy - by having an office and going into it and locking the door. You can come out for a coffee and a pee and perhaps a short lunch.

You can come out at five or six or whenever the eight hours are up, by which time your partner/children/dogs/cat/aardvark/goat will be wondering why you haven't done the dishes and prepared a meal.

With a solid eight hour day behind you, you can now look them all squarely in the eye and tell them to collectively F-off.

And remember to throw the aardvark and the goat out into the yard!

 

With a solid eight hour day behind you, you can now look them all squarely in the eye and tell them to collectively F-off.

I suspect many other single men may think like you.

 

[Ashley_Price]

You don't appear to make it clear if you and your wife have actually discussed what the problem is?

If you haven't talked with her about it, it may not actually be related to you working from home, there could be another underlying reason for all the quarrels. Talk with her AND LISTEN to what she says before you take further action, then you will have more of an idea of what you need to do.

My wife and I work together and have done since 2004. We did used to work from home but then moved into an office. It is great to be able to leave work at the end of the day and come home, rather than it always "being there" just in another room of the same house.

 

[Ashley_Price]

Tried working from home two years ago but it only took me 3 months because everybody's expecting me to do household chores. How can I when I'm working.

That sounds like people didn't take it seriously that you were working.

My mother was like this when I first started my own business. In the end I said to her "If I was employed and at work, would you ring me up at work and ask me to nip out and get some shopping and bring it home?" She replied "Of course not." So I said, "But you expect me to stop working for clients, and earning money, to do chores around the home." She got it then.

Again it's a case of getting everyone to understand that if you are working from home you are still working.

 

[ReviewsThatStick]

Change your wife.

No more fights and no more quarrels.

Good one lol. But on the serious side, changing a wife is a no for me. Since your wife is doing office work and you at home, why not try doing some housework so that she would be happy when she gets home. You can try taking turns in doing housework.

 

[pamwilson]

That sounds like people didn't take it seriously that you were working.

My mother was like this when I first started my own business. In the end I said to her "If I was employed and at work, would you ring me up at work and ask me to nip out and get some shopping and bring it home?" She replied "Of course not." So I said, "But you expect me to stop working for clients, and earning money, to do chores around the home." She got it then.

Again it's a case of getting everyone to understand that if you are working from home you are still working.

Hi Ashley, so true! After that I went back working at the office again and still up to now.

Sorry just got back from the holiday its crazy busy and just recognized the newly improved site. Nice one!

 

[pamwilson]

Easy - by having an office and going into it and locking the door. You can come out for a coffee and a pee and perhaps a short lunch.

You can come out at five or six or whenever the eight hours are up, by which time your partner/children/dogs/cat/aardvark/goat will be wondering why you haven't done the dishes and prepared a meal.

With a solid eight hour day behind you, you can now look them all squarely in the eye and tell them to collectively F-off.

And remember to throw the aardvark and the goat out into the yard!

Thanks for the suggestion but I'm not planning to work from home in the near future. Hahaha.

 

[kris-london]

same here...

 

[Nord20]

It's written a a cartoon, but he makes some very relevant points.....

http://theoatmeal.com/comics/working_home

 

[CPSMedia Carl]

I work from home in my home office, for me the key is getting out of the house on a regular basis, personally I like to go to the gym as well as a bit of walking/jogging, then I usually get out to the pub for a few beers with friends once a week.

For me doing these few things keeps the balance just right.

Spending 100% of your time together is not healthy in my personal opinion, plus working from home can be quite solitary, so for me its really important to keep really active

 

[Eina26]

Yes, working at home sucks. Especially when your wife find you have nothing to do, or surfing on internet, she will always try to ask you to do some housework and so on

So right. It's very difficult to make the people in your house understand that you're actually doing some work and not just surf the internet all day or sit in your chair the whole day. That's why it's better to have a separate office, so that they won't be tempted to ask for any help on household chores when you're doing something really important.

 

[aampapproach]

I don't think that work-form-home is the problem as she works a regular job, so no you aren't together all the time. All I can say is customize a room as your office if you still wanna work from home, basic things you need to work from home are:

1. High speed unlimited broadband connection

2. Registered PO Box address

3. A good quality business website

4. Specially assigned phone number

5. A payment method (whatever suits you)

I hope it works out for you, all the best.!