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Hello there - I have been reading this forum for a few weeks now and have to say that you guys really are amazing.
I’ve read many replies from people much like myself who feel that they’re in desperate need of help with nowhere to turn, who’s managed to turn things around where they otherwise believed that they could not, based on the advice offered on this forum - so with that in mind, I really need some help.
Or just to be able to talk
Single business woman, went into business not knowing what I was doing but ultimately hoping for the best.
6 years ago I set up a business as a sole trader - I didn’t have any qualifications and business wasn’t really my thing, however, after many many months of determination and the drive to succeed, I opened my first retail shop.
Unfortunately within a couple of weeks o had to close down due to covid so not the best start but hey, I achieved the goal so I wasn’t too disappointed as I knew it would be waiting for me once everything had resolved.
During this time my landlord of my home told me he was wanting to sell his house, something he promised me that he never ever would do !
Single mother with 3 children I was absolutely horrified.
I was advised by someone who I was “connected” with in a business sense, that if I registered my business as LTD, then I have a chance of getting a mortgage to buy my house.
They told me that if I worked hard for 18 months under a LTD status then I’d have this miraculous chance of being able to buy my house and save my children’s home !
I didn’t have much business sense, I’ll be completely honest with you, in fact, I say “not much” but I had none at all.
Did I know what it meant to be a ltd company ? No!!?
Did I fully understand my obligations and responsibilities ? No, I had no idea whatsoever.
My only and main concern was getting through covid, reopening this business and buying my rented home that my children and I had lived in for so many years.
Fast forward, shops were back open, I was doing ok… I was taking the money, but instead of being responsible with the takings, I was throwing it all back into more stock in the hope that I can become bigger and bigger.
I ended up renting a unit next door and expanding the shop, the more I made the more I put back into to stock, to renovations, the business became my everything and I was so so incredibly proud of myself because having had next to nothing as a child, coming from a poor family, with no education whatsoever, I actually felt like I had achieved something that made me worth it
Without continuing too much with this sob story.
I carried on trading and when my accounts came due, well, I didn’t know what to do?
They went overdue for some while before I eventually found an accountant to sort me out.
He had advised me on many occasions to stop buying so much stock because whilst having the stock “looks good”, I’ll never quite make the profit that I’m working towards because I’ve chucked it all back into the business.
So we are now in 2022 and the yeats coming to an end, - my landlord had until March 2023 to advise the bank of his plans.
Do you think I even had so much as a deposit for this house? No! I didn’t … why? Because I’d thrown everything back into the business in the hope that I could make it even bigger.
I don’t know if this was fate or otherwise but in jan of 2023 the house faced a catastrophic flood and I had to move out there and then ( luckily with somewhere to go )
My landlord claimed off his insurance, I lost all my belongings because I didn’t have house insurance and 2 years on this house has been renovated and is on the market for £400k, so it was win, win, for landlord who’d purchased it for £207,000 some years before.
So this business, ( sorry for the life story but I think it’s important I make you aware of how this mess came to be )
2023/2024, retail starts to decline quite a lot and I am seeing my businesses make less and less on years before.
Terrified of losing everything I took up an offer from a friend to revamp a unit that was attached to her business in a seaside town that was much busier than where my current 2 units were
The rent was peanuts and it meant she didn’t have to pay the rates on the building so everyone was happy
Not wanting to close my other two units down because they were my baby and I was still so so exceptionally proud, I decided to juggle these 3 units in the hope that the 3rd could compensate for any loss of trade at the originating business.
We get to July 2024 and contractors were falling behind, things were coming up, work wasn’t getting done the summer season was rapidly coming to an end and my third unit wasn’t even open yet.
Any monies made from the other 2 were now being thrown into the 3rd because the location was more favourable and I rapidly needed to do something to try and save my skin, only what I failed to realise was that I was actually making things worse
I racked up a further 20k debt in wholesale stock believing that I would make enough funds from the other units , as well as the new one, during the summer holidays, to pay these debts off.
It didn’t work

September came, school holidays were over and I’m sitting there with a third unit on an empty street in what is essentially a seasonal seaside town.
I knew then that I was buggered, absolutely buggered.
I contacted creditors for more time to pay and what they were asking for in terms of repayments was just beyond comprehension
I tried to explain my issue but they just did not want to know, not at all.
I contacted one of the suppliers and offered them the £8000 stock back, of which they refused.
This particular wholesaler used a B2B company to get their funds..
So they had been paid by a third party and then I had to pay this third party company who were based in a different country.
So of course they wasn’t interested in taking the stocks back, they’d been paid already.
No matter how much I tried to explain my situation and offer affordable payment solutions, the creditors wouldn’t budge.
One of them was a main supplier that I had used from the very beginning and spent thousands upon thousands of pounds with.
I’m now in a position where I couldn’t pay rent on my 2 units so had to give in notice and I’m absolutely heartbroken to say the very least
I tried to save the two original units but then letters were arriving from creditors which had additional fees added on, compensation costs, and these debts had increased by a further £5000
One supplier added a compensation charge of £3000 onto my bill for “late payment of invoice”, which saw a £5900 bill shoot up to £9000
This debt is currently with solicitors and they’ve told me that if they take it to a court they’re adding more compensation and court fees on top which will essentially see this one debt fly into £10k or more when the original balance was £5900
The B2B loan was £6000 and was with a trade insurer for recovery, however, they won’t accept any of my offers of payment at all.
Same as the £5900 creditor ( that’s not standing at £8900 )
I’ve tried and tried and tried and I’ve absolutely failed
I’m going to get court orders through the door shortly and I dont know what to do.
The stock I purchased for the third “pop up” unit hasn’t been touched.
This entire situation caused me so much mental distress that I just fell to bits
I can’t sleep.
I’m wandering around my house at 4am shaking with anxiety panicking who’s going to email me or phone me during the upcoming day.
My business has been forced into closure because creditors will not accept my offers of payment
I haven’t intentionally set out to not pay people. I just took a wrong turn because I believed that in opening a third unit I could potentially save the others that were struggling.
Had the creditors allowed for a reasonable payment plan until I got back on my feet I think I would have been ok - all bar the mental trauma it’s causing me.
I don’t know what to do.
I have around 24k saleable value sitting in that 3rd shop, untouched, untouched because I’d been too anxious to go into the unit and sell it.
And I have my 2 original units that are being cleared out next week with the intention of permanently ceasing trade, and let me tell you, I am absolutely broken by all of this.
I had a friend running the two original connecting units for me and they’re not much clued up on Ltd companies either
I’ve lost everything because I tried so hard and I just don’t know where to turn or what to do.
If only the creditors would give me chance to pay, just until I get back on my feet then perhaps I’d have a change of saving at least one unit
The third unit wasn’t registered as a ltd entity but I was silly enough to buy the stock under the ltd name so evidently I’ve buggered myself there, too, as I can’t keep them separate.
I’m so so desperate for some help
I look at my sons every day and I just question, what must they think of me.
Their mum went from having what they believed to be this big business - to now having absolutely nothing.
To crying everyday fearful of the days ahead.
Can someone please help me .
I never intended for this to happen, although I suppose none of us do!
I just got myself tangled in a few business things that I didn’t much understand, chucked everything I had back into the business despite being told to stop and now I’ve essentially lost it all because I’ve gone bust.
I can’t afford liquidation and have been reading the SpongeBob plan
My stock asset is less than my debts, now….
What do I do guys? Walk away? Fight?????
My mental health is shot!
Thank you so so much for reading my post and I’m sorry I’ve waffled on as much as I have - I don’t really have anyone to talk to and given the mess that I’m in, I just don’t know what else to do.
Have a wonderful Sunday xx ( sorry if there are a lot of typos, I’ll fix them when I get chance )


I’ve read many replies from people much like myself who feel that they’re in desperate need of help with nowhere to turn, who’s managed to turn things around where they otherwise believed that they could not, based on the advice offered on this forum - so with that in mind, I really need some help.
Or just to be able to talk
Single business woman, went into business not knowing what I was doing but ultimately hoping for the best.
6 years ago I set up a business as a sole trader - I didn’t have any qualifications and business wasn’t really my thing, however, after many many months of determination and the drive to succeed, I opened my first retail shop.
Unfortunately within a couple of weeks o had to close down due to covid so not the best start but hey, I achieved the goal so I wasn’t too disappointed as I knew it would be waiting for me once everything had resolved.
During this time my landlord of my home told me he was wanting to sell his house, something he promised me that he never ever would do !
Single mother with 3 children I was absolutely horrified.
I was advised by someone who I was “connected” with in a business sense, that if I registered my business as LTD, then I have a chance of getting a mortgage to buy my house.
They told me that if I worked hard for 18 months under a LTD status then I’d have this miraculous chance of being able to buy my house and save my children’s home !
I didn’t have much business sense, I’ll be completely honest with you, in fact, I say “not much” but I had none at all.
Did I know what it meant to be a ltd company ? No!!?
Did I fully understand my obligations and responsibilities ? No, I had no idea whatsoever.
My only and main concern was getting through covid, reopening this business and buying my rented home that my children and I had lived in for so many years.
Fast forward, shops were back open, I was doing ok… I was taking the money, but instead of being responsible with the takings, I was throwing it all back into more stock in the hope that I can become bigger and bigger.
I ended up renting a unit next door and expanding the shop, the more I made the more I put back into to stock, to renovations, the business became my everything and I was so so incredibly proud of myself because having had next to nothing as a child, coming from a poor family, with no education whatsoever, I actually felt like I had achieved something that made me worth it
Without continuing too much with this sob story.
I carried on trading and when my accounts came due, well, I didn’t know what to do?
They went overdue for some while before I eventually found an accountant to sort me out.
He had advised me on many occasions to stop buying so much stock because whilst having the stock “looks good”, I’ll never quite make the profit that I’m working towards because I’ve chucked it all back into the business.
So we are now in 2022 and the yeats coming to an end, - my landlord had until March 2023 to advise the bank of his plans.
Do you think I even had so much as a deposit for this house? No! I didn’t … why? Because I’d thrown everything back into the business in the hope that I could make it even bigger.
I don’t know if this was fate or otherwise but in jan of 2023 the house faced a catastrophic flood and I had to move out there and then ( luckily with somewhere to go )
My landlord claimed off his insurance, I lost all my belongings because I didn’t have house insurance and 2 years on this house has been renovated and is on the market for £400k, so it was win, win, for landlord who’d purchased it for £207,000 some years before.
So this business, ( sorry for the life story but I think it’s important I make you aware of how this mess came to be )
2023/2024, retail starts to decline quite a lot and I am seeing my businesses make less and less on years before.
Terrified of losing everything I took up an offer from a friend to revamp a unit that was attached to her business in a seaside town that was much busier than where my current 2 units were
The rent was peanuts and it meant she didn’t have to pay the rates on the building so everyone was happy
Not wanting to close my other two units down because they were my baby and I was still so so exceptionally proud, I decided to juggle these 3 units in the hope that the 3rd could compensate for any loss of trade at the originating business.
We get to July 2024 and contractors were falling behind, things were coming up, work wasn’t getting done the summer season was rapidly coming to an end and my third unit wasn’t even open yet.
Any monies made from the other 2 were now being thrown into the 3rd because the location was more favourable and I rapidly needed to do something to try and save my skin, only what I failed to realise was that I was actually making things worse
I racked up a further 20k debt in wholesale stock believing that I would make enough funds from the other units , as well as the new one, during the summer holidays, to pay these debts off.
It didn’t work
September came, school holidays were over and I’m sitting there with a third unit on an empty street in what is essentially a seasonal seaside town.
I knew then that I was buggered, absolutely buggered.
I contacted creditors for more time to pay and what they were asking for in terms of repayments was just beyond comprehension
I tried to explain my issue but they just did not want to know, not at all.
I contacted one of the suppliers and offered them the £8000 stock back, of which they refused.
This particular wholesaler used a B2B company to get their funds..
So they had been paid by a third party and then I had to pay this third party company who were based in a different country.
So of course they wasn’t interested in taking the stocks back, they’d been paid already.
No matter how much I tried to explain my situation and offer affordable payment solutions, the creditors wouldn’t budge.
One of them was a main supplier that I had used from the very beginning and spent thousands upon thousands of pounds with.
I’m now in a position where I couldn’t pay rent on my 2 units so had to give in notice and I’m absolutely heartbroken to say the very least
I tried to save the two original units but then letters were arriving from creditors which had additional fees added on, compensation costs, and these debts had increased by a further £5000
One supplier added a compensation charge of £3000 onto my bill for “late payment of invoice”, which saw a £5900 bill shoot up to £9000
This debt is currently with solicitors and they’ve told me that if they take it to a court they’re adding more compensation and court fees on top which will essentially see this one debt fly into £10k or more when the original balance was £5900
The B2B loan was £6000 and was with a trade insurer for recovery, however, they won’t accept any of my offers of payment at all.
Same as the £5900 creditor ( that’s not standing at £8900 )
I’ve tried and tried and tried and I’ve absolutely failed
I’m going to get court orders through the door shortly and I dont know what to do.
The stock I purchased for the third “pop up” unit hasn’t been touched.
This entire situation caused me so much mental distress that I just fell to bits
I can’t sleep.
I’m wandering around my house at 4am shaking with anxiety panicking who’s going to email me or phone me during the upcoming day.
My business has been forced into closure because creditors will not accept my offers of payment
I haven’t intentionally set out to not pay people. I just took a wrong turn because I believed that in opening a third unit I could potentially save the others that were struggling.
Had the creditors allowed for a reasonable payment plan until I got back on my feet I think I would have been ok - all bar the mental trauma it’s causing me.
I don’t know what to do.
I have around 24k saleable value sitting in that 3rd shop, untouched, untouched because I’d been too anxious to go into the unit and sell it.
And I have my 2 original units that are being cleared out next week with the intention of permanently ceasing trade, and let me tell you, I am absolutely broken by all of this.
I had a friend running the two original connecting units for me and they’re not much clued up on Ltd companies either
I’ve lost everything because I tried so hard and I just don’t know where to turn or what to do.
If only the creditors would give me chance to pay, just until I get back on my feet then perhaps I’d have a change of saving at least one unit
The third unit wasn’t registered as a ltd entity but I was silly enough to buy the stock under the ltd name so evidently I’ve buggered myself there, too, as I can’t keep them separate.
I’m so so desperate for some help
I look at my sons every day and I just question, what must they think of me.
Their mum went from having what they believed to be this big business - to now having absolutely nothing.
To crying everyday fearful of the days ahead.
Can someone please help me .
I never intended for this to happen, although I suppose none of us do!
I just got myself tangled in a few business things that I didn’t much understand, chucked everything I had back into the business despite being told to stop and now I’ve essentially lost it all because I’ve gone bust.
I can’t afford liquidation and have been reading the SpongeBob plan
My stock asset is less than my debts, now….
What do I do guys? Walk away? Fight?????
My mental health is shot!
Thank you so so much for reading my post and I’m sorry I’ve waffled on as much as I have - I don’t really have anyone to talk to and given the mess that I’m in, I just don’t know what else to do.
Have a wonderful Sunday xx ( sorry if there are a lot of typos, I’ll fix them when I get chance )
