not confident enough

[D1234]

hello, just needed some advice, basically i need a job but i am not confident enough so im 100% i will not get employed. im dyslexic so not sure what to do, i had a resturant waiter job but was put under pressure when taking orders so couldnt get the right words in each sentences, not sure what to do as i need money to live, thanks

 

[MartCactus]

why not go for a job that doesn't involve spelling things correctly?

Coal miner? Chimney sweep? Sub editor with the Guardian?

 

[Jeff FV]

You say you lack confidence, but what you clearly do have is initiative, determination and 'get up and go' - it would have been easy for you to have just said life's not fair and given up, but you've taken the step to seek help and advice by posting a question on this forum. Many would not have bothered and I respect you for taking the time to do so.

Hard work and initiative are two of the most important characteristics in an employee - play to these strengths, and your confidence will grow.

I wish you the very best of luck in your job hunt.

Jeff

 

[marlinman]

hello, just needed some advice, basically i need a job but i am not confident enough so im 100% i will not get employed. im dyslexic so not sure what to do, i had a resturant waiter job but was put under pressure when taking orders so couldnt get the right words in each sentences, not sure what to do as i need money to live, thanks

Driving job, less likely to require reading skills and little if any writing required.

 

[LicensedToTrade]

Hey there, I'm sorry to hear that your confidence has been knocked. Perhaps you need to spend some time working on your self-esteem to make sure you give the best impression at interview.

Being dyslexic need not hold you back, there are a number of businessmen and woman on this forum whom I know to be dyslexic. It is also worth a look here http://www.dyslexia.com/famous.htm

These are all people who have achieved much more than the average person inspite of their dyslexia. The list includes Richard Branson, Henry Ford....Albert Einstein!

Let us know how you get on.

 

[Drpepper]

Blimey this forum is turning into a self help group for the depressed and low-esteemed.

 

[LicensedToTrade]

Blimey this forum is turning into a self help group for the depressed and low-esteemed.

Does that really surprise you? Although this thread is about an individual seeking employment, in the wider area of 'business', depression and knocks to self-esteem are fairly common. As you well know being in business, particularly if it is your own business can be extremely stressful and if profits take a hit then it is only natural that the business owner will be taking a hit on their own mental wellbeing. Depression and business are long-standing bedfellows.

 

[Drpepper]

Does that really surprise you? Although this thread is about an individual seeking employment, in the wider area of 'business', depression and knocks to self-esteem are fairly common. As you well know being in business, particularly if it is your own business can be extremely stressful and if profits take a hit then it is only natural that the business owner will be taking a hit on their own mental wellbeing. Depression and business are long-standing bedfellows.

I agree, and things are tough for many of us. I wouldn't go onto a forum like this looking for a confidence boost though.

A bit of self-help doesn't go amiss, beyond that ask for advice on the practicalities for your business or job seeking. Don't just come here whining and winging about how tough life is looking for a "there there then" and a pat on the back.

 

[Psl]

hello, just needed some advice, basically i need a job but i am not confident enough so im 100% i will not get employed. im dyslexic so not sure what to do, i had a resturant waiter job but was put under pressure when taking orders so couldnt get the right words in each sentences, not sure what to do as i need money to live, thanks

OP, start a business, if you want, and boll***s to what people may say or think about your dyslexia.
I have dyslexia and at first it did hinder me but now it doesn't bother me one little bit. In fact I tell people.
There are lots of people ou there with dyslexia and some famous one's too, Sir Richard Branson for one.

 

[S-Marketing]

You are dyslexic, not stupid. Dont let people tell you that you will need to get a driving job or work in a shop, its simply not true.

 

[Cobby]

i had a resturant waiter job but was put under pressure when taking orders so couldnt get the right words in each sentences,

Could this be considered discrimination? Or is it a case of suitability?

 

[davezzr]

why not go for a job that doesn't involve spelling things correctly?

Coal miner? Chimney sweep? Sub editor with the Guardian?

Pi** taker

 

[LicensedToTrade]

Could this be considered discrimination? Or is it a case of suitability?

Without knowing the ins and outs I couldn't possibly comment. Regardless, the OP hasn't shown any interest in pursuing his former employers for discrimination so I see no reason to go down that path. Ultimately if the OP found it uncomfortable working in that kind of environment then it wasn't suited to him. The focus now should be to find a job that is suitable rather than dwelling on how much money can be screwed out of the previous employer. In fairness to the OP he has made it clear that seeking suitable employment is all he is interested in.

 

[Cobby]

Without knowing the ins and outs I couldn't possibly comment. Regardless, the OP hasn't shown any interest in pursuing his former employers for discrimination so I see no reason to go down that path. Ultimately if the OP found it uncomfortable working in that kind of environment then it wasn't suited to him. The focus now should be to find a job that is suitable rather than dwelling on how much money can be screwed out of the previous employer. In fairness to the OP he has made it clear that seeking suitable employment is all he is interested in.

Absolutely and I didn't mean to imply otherwise. I was simply curious about it from a hypothetical standpoint.

 

[estwig]

hello, just needed some advice, basically i need a job but i am not confident enough so im 100% i will not get employed. im dyslexic so not sure what to do, i had a resturant waiter job but was put under pressure when taking orders so couldnt get the right words in each sentences, not sure what to do as i need money to live, thanks

So 100% sure you won't get a job? Well that's that, with an attitude like that you won't get a job.

Your dyslexic, is that dyslexic, as in too lazy to use punctuation, or dyslexic as in too lazy to get a job and being dyslexic is the new easy cop out??

Did they put you under pressure in a job? You mean you where expected to earn your money!

Never mind needing money to live, I think you should be taken outside and shot.

 

[Drpepper]

So 100% sure you won't get a job? Well that's that, with an attitude like that you won't get a job.

Your dyslexic, is that dyslexic, as in too lazy to use punctuation, or dyslexic as in too lazy to get a job and being dyslexic is the new easy cop out??

Did they put you under pressure in a job? You mean you where expected to earn your money!

Never mind needing money to live, I think you should be taken outside and shot.

Bit harsh estwig, he'll probably get stress now and that will only lead to depression

 

[Cobby]

Your dyslexic, is that dyslexic, as in too lazy to use punctuation, or dyslexic as in too lazy to get a job and being dyslexic is the new easy cop out??

It's a bit of a poor show to lecture someone on their punctuation with that sentence.

 

[estwig]

It's a bit of a poor show to lecture someone on their punctuation with that sentence.

Well unfortunately I'm not trendy enough to have dyslexia, so it's probably a minor case of post traumatic stress disorder!

 

[Deleted member 59730]

I employed a dyslexic salesman until he retired. He was very good and the business still misses him. First thing is to develop a sense of humour. He had to take a lot of laughs at his spelling. He once spelt the word 'ticked' three different ways on one sheet of paper.

 

[Psl]

Well unfortunately I'm not trendy enough to have dyslexia, so it's probably a minor case of post traumatic stress disorder!

Dyslexia is not a trend you mug.It can be dealt with, although I am not so sure that there is a cure for being an idiot.

 

[saxondale]

So 100% sure you won't get a job? Well that's that, with an attitude like that you won't get a job.

Your dyslexic, is that dyslexic, as in too lazy to use punctuation, or dyslexic as in too lazy to get a job and being dyslexic is the new easy cop out??

Did they put you under pressure in a job? You mean you where expected to earn your money!

Never mind needing money to live, I think you should be taken outside and shot.

is there a special name for those who can read and write but are just bad at maths? I have that one ...............

 

[saxondale]

Bit harsh estwig, he'll probably get stress now and that will only lead to depression

or over eat and become obese - no one will employ him then

 

[Drpepper]

Dyslexia is not a trend you mug.It can be dealt with, although I am not so sure that there is a cure for being an idiot.

I think estwig was implying that to many people these days use dyslexia, stress, depression as an excuse for being incompetent or just lazy.

Not saying every who claims one of the above is a shirker, but very many are.

 

[Jeff FV]

is there a special name for those who can read and write but are just bad at maths? I have that one ...............

Dyscalculia

Jeff

 

[saxondale]

Dyscalculia

Jeff

off to register me mum as a career.

 

[Drpepper]

off to register me mum as a career.

It's carer, not career - so you've got dyslexia on your side now as well

 

[estwig]

Dyslexia is not a trend you mug.It can be dealt with, although I am not so sure that there is a cure for being an idiot.

Well they haven't found one for me yet

 

[Brookdel]

Look at your strengths and what you will enjoy doing. Then you will have a better understanding of what will suit you. Most of us are only comfortable in certain roles so don't beat yourself up about a job you had problems in. I am an employer and I would work with your strengths not put you down for dyslexia.

 

[owas]

trust me mate i am as about dyslexic as they come, and although sometimes I bulls up in work, they seem to understand, boss and work colleagues. I feel have a really good job, get to work at loads of trade shows, and this job has opend so many opertunites for me, but you have to work hard. And when you get stuck you have to find ways around it, and you need more confidence than others, but dont ever let it stop you and dont ever let it be an excuse. It is also against the law to discriminate against people with dyslexia. Look at your strenths, look at what you enjoy doing, and look for work along these lines, that way your sure, to work hard if you enjoy what you do.

 

[LicensedToTrade]

Well they haven't found one for me yet

What's the word for someone who has delusions of grandeur?

 

[saxondale]

What's the word for someone who has delusions of grandeur?

"Oldeagleeye"

 

[estwig]

"Oldeagleeye"

It pains me to agree with you.

That is spot on!!!!

 

[silverrepublic]

Listen - my brother has dyslexia and passed NO gcse's at school and was written off by his teachers my parents were actually told 'you cant make a silk purse from a sows ear!, he started an apprentiship as a welder at the local ship yards - was really good at it and decided to study in the evenings.

He got his HNC and then gave up welding to study full time at uni - off shore engineering, he passed with first class honers and then went on to do his masters.

He has been employed by the same company who are putting him through his chartership.

Dyslexic people usually have one or two things that they are REALLY good at - spelling and punctuation are not the be all and end all of employment - find out what it is that your good at and go for it.

Be upfront at any interviews you attend and explain that you have dyslexia - any decent employer would not let this stop them employing you - as long as your skills fit their bill!

Thanks

 

[formerguest]

Only the OP is aware of the full background to their experiences and it's not our place to judge. The OP indicated that they lacked confidence but by posting I feel they were doing something very constructive to try and help themselves. Many of you are employers and so are best placed to advise. Some of these posts have been very supportive and have offered constructive advice, which is great. It's less heartening to read some of the other posts and I'm not surprised the OP hasn't posted since...