NLP 'Neuro Linguistic Programming'

[realmaverick]

Hey guys,

Do we have any other enthusiasts or practitioners on the forum?

I did my practitioner in London with Paul Mckenna and Richard Bandler and then went to Mexico to do by Master practitioner with Gabe Guerro, John La valle and Eric Robbie.

I find NLP fascinating, its improved every area of my life, it's quite an incredible life tool.

It would be cool to meet other enthusiasts, or perhaps you've heard of NLP and have an interest. Feel free to hit me with any questions.

Look forward to hearing from you

Paul

 

[mumper]

Hi Paul and welcome to the forums.

I used to work with another Paul who trained under Richard Bandler and John LaValle. He was excellent at what he did but I could never fully come to grips with it.

 

[Hayles]

Hi Paul

Yes, find it very interesting. (I'm hoping to start a hypnotherapy course next month.) Do you find many people are skeptical though? I can imagine a few on here are...! Maybe post some general points about it?

H

 

[Deleted member 3454]

What is it with men named Paul and NLP! I also know a guy called Paul who is an NLP practitioner.

Personally I developed a negative opinion of NLP after watching that programme that used NLP to try to get people to rob a cash van. My contact, Paul, has tried to give me a better insight but I remain unconvinced.

 

[CarolineICE]

Hi Paul,

I'm an amateur enthusiast with NLP. I've done a couple of courses from a sales point of view. I would love to become a practitioner when time and money allow. I think it can offer some real benefits in the Business world and just adds another angle to how you look at things. I used to sell to GP's and I used my NLP knowledge all the time with them; it really helped my sales. I think it's getting over to people the beneifts and advantages that having some NLP training can offer them in real terms.

Regards,

Caroline

 

[Ambika]

I fully agree with the above. It's another angle and can aid in many ways.

NLP is like Paracetamol

 

[realmaverick]

I love this forum, as always great replies.

I'll make sure I address all the points once I'm home tonight.

I wanted to pick up quickly on Coxadmin's post. A surgeons knife is used to save lives, in the wrong hands it could take lives and I believe this Analogy is true for NLP and many other things.

Many men use their charm to trick woman, bed them and then never speak to them again, using the same rule you applied to NLP, that would make Charm a bad thing?

We all have skills and we all use them differently, some for good and others for bad, it's not the skill that we should question, it's the man using it.

Hayles of course but once you understand the science behind it, it's simple to convince them otherwise, it's impossible for them to say it doesn't exist once you've explained

Caroline NLP sure is a phenomenal sales tool, the best I've come across, when you understand how peoples minds are working it's much easier to build rapport and make a sale. Just remember to remain ethical.

 

[Hayles]

Hayles of course but once you understand the science behind it, it's simple to convince them otherwise, it's impossible for them to say it doesn't exist once you've explained

Caroline NLP sure is a phenomenal sales tool, the best I've come across, when you understand how peoples minds are working it's much easier to build rapport and make a sale. Just remember to remain ethical.

Come on then, give us a brief outline of how, what and why you do what you do

 

[CarolineICE]

Paul,

I was in Pharmaceutical sales for 10 years so I had to be ethical when selling!

Hayles, briefly, how I find NLP useful is in gaining an insight into what makes certain people 'tick'. From a sales point of view this helps you to recognise patterns of behaviour and why people make the decisions they do. By observing the unconscious signals and reactions of your customers you can use this info to your advantage, can meet their needs and hopefully increase sales! For me it wasn't about tricking, or getting one over on people but reacting to certain situations for a win:win solution. I think NLP takes a lot of study, I have only a basic understanding and a few skills. Paul ,I think must be an expert!

Does that help answer your question?

Caroline

 

[realmaverick]

Caroline, nicely put.

NLP is excellent for sales, as well as an all round incredible business tool.

NLP is a very in depth subject so lets just touch on one use:

Do you notice how your mood changes from day to day and sometimes minute to minute or how certain tasks or people can cause different feelings?

I'm going to use Hayles as a quick example, you're not keen on calling clients on the phone, but why? It maybe that you're worried, but worried about what? what are you doing inside to cause the concern.

Some people make pictures, others talk to themselves or run over movies of past experiences, these all lead to state (mood) change.

If you're creating movies in your mind about how terribly wrong the phone call you're about to make is going to go, then you'll notice your physiology start to change, you'll become nervous, anxious etc. By the time you come to make the call you're in the wrong frame of mind, which will effect your performance which will effect the result.

If I ask you 'Do you like talking to clients on the phone' you'll say 'NO' without hesitation. This is because you've already built up a strong 'Anchor'. Well anchors are a whole lesson in themselves but I'll explain briefly. To put it simply an anchor is an association, take music for example, when you hear a certain song on the radio it may cause you to think about a particular person or event.

Well you've a similar thing, you only have to think about phoning a client and you have all sorts of feelings associated with it. You've already built a process. The second you start to think about it, the process starts, you might even be feeling a little different right now.

NLP can help me see that process just by watching and listening to you, and enables me to alter the process and associations so that phoning clients no longer concerns you.

Perhaps we could make it so that phoning clients excites you, because you're so focused on possible business, more money and all the fantastic things you can do with it.

 

[Neilh]

Hi

NLP has been something that has intrigued me for a while but I’ve never got round to doing anything about it.

Can anyone recommend a single good book to start with, something quite accessible and not too preachy or full of buzz words?

Neil

 

[CarolineICE]

Hi

NLP has been something that has intrigued me for a while but I’ve never got round to doing anything about it.

Can anyone recommend a single good book to start with, something quite accessible and not too preachy or full of buzz words?

Neil

I would just go on a few websites to start with. If you google it you will find an amazing number of NLP sites. Maybe stick to the UK ones if you want to avoid the 'preachy' stuff!

 

[mumper]

Go straight to Richard Bandler's site at www.richardbandler.com

 

[BeverleyM]

My husband is an NLP life coach.
Its an amazing technique, and has helped me personally in a few tricky situations recently.

 

[garyk]

What is it with men named Paul and NLP! I also know a guy called Paul who is an NLP practitioner.

Personally I developed a negative opinion of NLP after watching that programme that used NLP to try to get people to rob a cash van. My contact, Paul, has tried to give me a better insight but I remain unconvinced.

You are referring to Derren Brown and I've just read his book, been to see him twice as well, he's very entertaining!

In fact many people seem to hang the NLP 'hat' on him, if you read his book he mentions he did do a practioner course but didn't renew it as he didn't find any real worth in it and although it is something he is fully aware of he's not an advocate of it. He uses a whole mixture of techniques in his shows.

I don't hold any negative views about it but don't find it of any interest either.

Gary

 

[paganmarket]

NLP has always interested me along with hypnosis etc.
My ex is a fantastic salesman and puts it down to NLP and reading body language, I was/am always envious of his skill, he can talk to anyone (and did ) as long as he got the leads he could convert them. Always has an answer for whatever reason you can give not to do something - can be annoying too!!

 

[pmarsh]

I am an NLP practitioner, I use it within the context of hypnotherapy sessions.

There is an organisation offering a free weekend NLP course, the link here is: www . free-nlp .co. uk. Give it a try