Inappropriate manager

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  1. Sarah Wood

    Sarah Wood UKBF Newcomer Free Member

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    If there is a couple at work is the manager allowed to ask them questions about eachother? If one of them is off sick he will ask them questions like where is he/she, when's he/she bringing in a sick note.
    I think this is incredibly inappropriate and unprofessional.

    He has also suggested to other employees to ask a coworker where their partner has gone "so they can text them."

    I think this is really inappropriate, they should be treated as individuals.
    Is there any kind of law against this does anyone know? If you can, provide links please.
    Posted: Jan 2, 2020 By: Sarah Wood Member since: Jan 2, 2020
  2. Chris Ashdown

    Chris Ashdown UKBF Legend Free Member

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    As they have shown to not care about the company, by not telling the manager they are off for the day / morning etc, they are the ones at fault, most companies request that if you are unable to work you phone the manager( not text or ask a friend) to explain why you are not at work and how long you are likely to be off

    Companies work to minimum employment levels as staff are very expensive commodities, so any absences from the workplace effect the company efficiency to some level
    Posted: Jan 2, 2020 By: Chris Ashdown Member since: Dec 7, 2003
  3. Mr D

    Mr D UKBF Legend Free Member

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    It may be unprofessional. Perhaps find a more professional manager to work for?
    Inappropriate? Is it company policy? Or is it asking the person likely to know without requiring a phone call?
    Posted: Jan 2, 2020 By: Mr D Member since: Feb 12, 2017
  4. paulears

    paulears UKBF Big Shot Full Member

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    If people live together and are a proper couple, surely you can ask one questions like this? Better to ask the partner rather than wake up the sick individual to check they've been to the docs, or have a sick note. Why is it unprofessional?? My wife worked for the same company and it's how we met. When we got married, if one of us were ill, then I'd tell my boss she couldn't come in, and why, and he'd often pass me paperwork to take home for her. What on earth is so bad that people take offence. Treated like individuals? Clearly they are a couple and couples get treated differently than individuals at home and at work. Too weird for me to even understand. I don't see this as even unprofessional, just practical? Are you supposed to pretend you don't know the other person? What would John like for his birthday? Not telling - he's an individual, ask him?
    Posted: Jan 2, 2020 By: paulears Member since: Jan 7, 2015
  5. fisicx

    fisicx It's Major Clanger! Staff Member

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    Posted: Jan 3, 2020 By: fisicx Member since: Sep 12, 2006
  6. Ian J

    Ian J Factoring Specialist Full Member - Verified Business

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    And in my humble opinion it would be quite normal to do so
    Posted: Jan 3, 2020 By: Ian J Member since: Nov 6, 2004
  7. fisicx

    fisicx It's Major Clanger! Staff Member

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    Bob is off sick so the manager asks Alice how he is and everything Ok. This is perfectly normal behaviour. It would be same if a two friends worked in the same company and one was off.
    Posted: Jan 3, 2020 By: fisicx Member since: Sep 12, 2006
  8. paulears

    paulears UKBF Big Shot Full Member

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    Another unanimous opinion - funny world isn't it?

    The strange things is that people actually believe there are rules, laws and standards that there aren't and that bosses and colleagues cannot say certain things.

    My experience of couples is that it works really well, unless the couple is an unofficial one that nobody is supposed to know about, but of course everyone does. Asking the boyfriend how his girlfriend is when she's supposed to be married to somebody else is another kettle of fish, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who's done that and got the look back that says "oh my God, he knows" when in fact, everyone knows! This is actually happening at this moment, and I'm trying to STOP people making pointed (and often funny) comments. The two people are blissfully unaware they are the subject of much amusement at their antics. Constant nudge nudge winks have become normal. At some point I suppose I am going to have to point out that their 'secret' is far from secret - they'll be shocked and perhaps think I behaved very unprofessionally or inappropriately by asking one about the other?

    Anyway - today I'm busy returning door name labels back to their proper places, as each morning one name gets moved and added to the door it shouldn't be on before they come in. Some secret!
    Posted: Jan 3, 2020 By: paulears Member since: Jan 7, 2015
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