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Real World Hypnotherapy
20th March 2006, 09:36
I have attended many networking events and I regularly speak to business people who also attend them. There seems to be several reoccurring issues that I have personally found and also the other people tell me about.


Talking to someone for too long

When you only have a limited amount of time and you want to meet a certain amount of people e.g. 10, then you can not spend too long talking to one person. I recommend spending a maximum of ten minutes talking to the same person before moving on, however sometimes you get stuck. There are a couple of polite ways of getting out of this situation, you can introduce them to someone else in the room or you can inform them that you need to go and speak to someone before they leave. Both ways make sure you exchange business cards and then move on.


Only speaking to people you already know

When you go to a networking event it is likely that you know someone there already. Instead of mingling with the new people, you stay with the people you already know and then it suddenly turns from a business event to a social event. If you want to see people you already know then I suggest too do it away from networking events. If not there is sometimes little point going to these events if you are not going to meet new people.
One thing I commonly do when I see someone I know, I go and say hellp to them and say who I am looking to meet that night, they may even be able to point them out for you. Then I say to the person that we should meet up for a chat sometime or e-mail each other, I then politely excuse myself and go to meet new people.


Handing out your business card with your phone number, to too many people

When you go networking I actually suggest having a different business card made from the normal ones you hand out. One of the biggest distractions at work if taking phone calls, a much better way to communicate is via e-mail, this way you can decide when to contact people back instead of being constantly interrupted. If you hand out 20-30 business cards at an event with several number of, then you are likely to be plagued with phone calls from all sorts of people for the next week or so. If instead you just had an e-mail address on there, you can answer these in your own time.


Taking too many business cards from other people

When you are at an event you pick up lots and lots of business cards, however you probably only intend on contacting 2-3 people you actually met. What I suggest is to take a pen and write on the back something to remind you of that person. I would put something that you either discussed or a distinguishing feature i.e. a beard, funky haircut etc. That way when you are back in the office sorting through them, you know exactly who you need to contact.


Not approaching the right people

I get told off a lot of people that they are too shy to approach the people they really want to talk to. A lot of the time is it down to self confidence, but I know what it is like going up to someone you have never met and introducing yourself. A great way to speak to them is to ask the host, or someone that knows them already, to introduce you and tell them a little bit about you. This is like a referral from a trusted source and that new person will then be interested in talking to you.


Asking for free professional help

One thing that people do at networking events is ask people for free professional help. I speak to many business people such as accountants and lawyers who now tend to shy away from networking events as so many people approach them to ask questions about their own problems without offering anything in return. If you have a question you want to ask an accountant for example, you can explain the situation you are in but never ask for help, this way they are more inclined to offer assistance if they feel they are not being pressured. Another thing to do is say you have an issue and would they be able to help you if you booked an appointment with them. If you bother people they will avoid you in future and not introduce you to any of their peers.


Using cheap or free business cards

Biggest mistake you can make! Never hand out a cheap and nasty business card to anyone you want to do business with. You and your company with be undervalued straight away and it can cost you a lot of business. Successful people do not use free business cards, they use well designed cards on thick paper stock. Your business card is the only thing that people will remember you by, do not waste such opportunities, get some decent business cards made by a professional printing company. Do not print them off at home/the office, do not print them at a petrol station and do not have a big logo on the back saying free business cards.


Just a few hints and tips that I am sure many people here are guilty of and will also recognise from going to such events. There is also a great book called “the ultimate guide to successful networking” and it is written by Carole Stone. It is only £5 and well worth a read.

Matt, MK Printing

Admiral Collections
20th March 2006, 09:40
Thanks for that Matt. You have covered well some issues that I have experienced myself. Is the book available at Waterstones???


Nic :wink:

Real World Hypnotherapy
20th March 2006, 09:44
It certainly is Nic. It is quite a small book and it only takes 30 minutes or so to read.

Also here http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0091900255/qid=1142851843/sr=2-1/ref=sr_2_3_1/203-1288807-7054363 and you can get it for £1.62!

Matt

Mwebb
20th March 2006, 09:55
Matt,
for someone new to the business community venturing out on there own, it is great to read posts like this.

Although i guess some people may disagree with a few points, as their style and experiences are different, it is a pretty comprehensive guide to some do's and don'ts.

thanks

Michael

Real World Hypnotherapy
20th March 2006, 09:58
Glad to be of help. Everyone will have their own opinion and I am always willing to learn from others. I will never claim to know it all and I am always interested in making things better.

What I have put above is really from personal experience and from what people have told me.

Matt, MK Printing

rbutler
20th March 2006, 10:12
yeah where is that book available and can you tell me to find about these networking events are there regular ones in london?






www.rbutler.mlinternational.com

coxadmin
20th March 2006, 10:12
Thanks for that, Matt. I could of done with this info a week ago when I attended my first ever networking event!

Real World Hypnotherapy
20th March 2006, 10:21
Lynn, please print the info out so you can use it in future. Also if anyone else has any advice please do post it. Did anything of the above happen at your first meeting?

I am currently working on new business cards that are just for networking. The just have an e-mail address or website instead of phone numbers. On the reverse it also has information about your company or a mini consumer guide.

The important thing to do when giving cards out is getting people to remember you and contacting you afterwards. If you just have your name, company and number it not not that helpful, however if you have information about your company and services offered then the return is much higher.

I have a few designs already done if people are interested in seeing them. If so please e-mail me at info@mkprinting.co.uk and I will e-mail them to you. You can then see if you think they are a good idea or not and will help you to design cards in the future.

Remember that you don't always know who you are giving your business cards out too at these events and a lot of people at networking events are there to sell and advertises things to you. I know of people who have handed their cards out willy nilly, and get increasing amounts of spams and sales calls in the weeks following.

Also handing out your mobile phone number on a business card can be very risky, especially if you are female. E-mails are much safer and I would recommend you just have this on your card. Also you don't even need to put your name on the cards, this means several people from the same company can use the cards making them cost effective!

Matt

directmarketingadvice
20th March 2006, 10:27
I read an article recently that said that handing out business cards at networking events is a mistake.

The article is here:

http://www.earlytorise.com/_pages/_daily-archives/032006/03082006.php

Steve

Essence
20th March 2006, 12:14
I read an article recently that said that handing out business cards at networking events is a mistake.

The article is here:

http://www.earlytorise.com/_pages/_daily-archives/032006/03082006.php

Steve

Thanks for that, Steve, I read the article. I definitely see his point, but don't think I'd be confident to follow all his suggestions! I've seen very different responses to the ones he says you'll get.

Michelle.

Tazuk
20th March 2006, 12:42
Who you know and who they know is the key feature of networking. As all networkers say "givers gain".

Robert
20th March 2006, 12:55
I find that, as a B2C business, networking is a waste of time.

Great if you an accountant, printer, web designer, mentor, telemarketer, corporate events/gifts etc though.

Admiral Collections
20th March 2006, 13:00
Excellent tips Steve.

This has turned into the most useful thread I have read on here in ages.

Nic :wink:

ebonybailey
20th March 2006, 15:16
The biggest problem i find with network events is that your there to sell, and so is everyone else, so rarely any buyers, kinda defeats the objective.

Michael

directmarketingadvice
20th March 2006, 15:31
I find that, as a B2C business, networking is a waste of time.

It's like any form of marketing, you have to present your offer to the right audience and in a cost and time-effective way.

If you're selling business services, then meeting 20 business owners can be very productive.

However, if you're selling to a broad selection of the general public, then 20 business owners might not be any more useful than 20 people in the street.

However, that doesn't mean that networking doesn't work B2C. It might just mean that "networking events" aren't worth the effort.

Still, there could be great value in going out and meeting people and letting them know what you do, and that's networking too.

Steve

Real World Hypnotherapy
21st March 2006, 13:34
I have mixed views on networking events, but I have done a lot of business with people at them. I think it is vitally important to be involved in some sort of group of like minded people, even if you are all in different businesses.

You will be amazed at what ideas you can get from other people. This is where I am lucky because I get to speak with such a wide range of people from different industries, I get to see what marketing works in each. When something works in one industry it can usually be tweaked and moved to another and work just as well there.

Matt, MK Printing

coxadmin
21st March 2006, 14:16
Did anything of the above happen at your first meeting?


My biggest problem was that I lacked the confidence to go and start conversations with people. I will be going again next month and will have a much better idea of what to expect, so I will have done some appropriate preparation, including my elevator speech.

ebonybailey
21st March 2006, 14:23
Make people laugh thats the easiest way of getting into any conversation. Humour wins every time.

Real World Hypnotherapy
21st March 2006, 14:31
Confidence really is just a state of mind and you need to learn to over come it. Luckily this is something I learnt from an early age so it has never been a problem for me, however I know that for a lot of people it is a major issue.

It just takes time and practice, once you have mastered it people will not be able to shut you up and you can talk to anyone. Just ask anyone that has called MK Printing in the past :)

Matt, MK Printing

hightide
22nd March 2006, 18:29
I never really liked open forum networking only.

I do a lot in breakfast clubs because then you have time to build relationships.

I tried speed networking, but 50% of the people I met were competitors. Which was alright, cos it's nice to find out how everyone else feels the industry is going. Probably great for people with 0 contacts, like a brand new start up.

My chamber organised a fab event once which got over the "open network" problem.

They organised abig day out in a country house, with fantastic activities. They divided everyone up into teams so you had time to build up a real rapport with a small group of conacts over the day, and then do a more general open forum afterwards. And the price was very reasonable considering the amount laid on.

Only problem: cancelled due to lack of interest!

A shame as it was EXACTLY the sort of event I would pay to go to (there may be a busienss opportunity for someone there....)

Bernard
24th March 2006, 15:06
This is an interesting article written by Scott Ginsberg

7 Habits of Highly Horrible Networkers (http://www.businessknowhow.com/marketing/horrible.htm)

Regards

Bernard

directmarketingadvice
24th March 2006, 15:19
Bernard

That was a really good article.

Thanks for posting the link.

Steve

Essence
24th March 2006, 15:27
This is an interesting article written by Scott Ginsberg

7 Habits of Highly Horrible Networkers (http://www.businessknowhow.com/marketing/horrible.htm)

Regards

Bernard

Thanks Bernard, that was really interesting to read. I'll be the first to admit that I'm not the world's greatest networker, but I definitely recognise some habits there that are worse than my own!

At one event, a print management guy came up to me, tied me up in conversation for 30 mins (actually, he wouldn't let me get a word in and talked over me whenever I did, normally to tell me that I didn't know what I was talking about), insulted my business stationery and chosen suppliers, told me that he won't get out of bed for less than a £5000 order, named all his competitors and referred to them as 'incompetent', then told me to refer him to my clients and colleagues! To top it off, he met me 6 weeks later and didn't even recognise or remember me or my business! I wouldn't have been bothered really, except that he wouldn't even respond to me when I said 'hello', because he didn't know who I was.

Lovely guy!

Sprinta
24th March 2006, 15:33
Some good pointers here.

We were a Chamber Member for a while and attended a few lunch events. I thought they were a waste of time and didn't get a thing from them. Maybe it was my attitude that was at fault.